You can do this for yourself when you hear yourself saying things you don't mean or becoming really emotional too. But it all takes practice. Works wonders when you do it though. Really amazing.
It is REALLY hard not to just run when it when you get in the wrong mode, but I like the way you put that, about "saying things you don't really mean" and how that's usually a sign that you need to take a deep breath and respond to tone rather than words.
But this thing came up recently that drove me crazy - evidently someone over at tumblr wrote a post about "being twenty and never having loved/been loved" or something like that. Hello - why the hell would you expect to have found "love" by the time you are twenty? Why are you worried if you haven't?
*grin* Being on Tumblr has been a fascinating experience for me in terms of getting to see just how young fandom is, and how that skews certain perceptions. For a 20 year old, it means they've lived their whole life without love, whereas older people are more likely to go, "Even if you THINK you've been in love at 20, there are good odds you haven't really." :)
14, my God...I don't remember feeling that kind of pressure at that age, it must be awful!
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Date: 2014-01-07 01:10 pm (UTC)It is REALLY hard not to just run when it when you get in the wrong mode, but I like the way you put that, about "saying things you don't really mean" and how that's usually a sign that you need to take a deep breath and respond to tone rather than words.
But this thing came up recently that drove me crazy - evidently someone over at tumblr wrote a post about "being twenty and never having loved/been loved" or something like that. Hello - why the hell would you expect to have found "love" by the time you are twenty? Why are you worried if you haven't?
*grin* Being on Tumblr has been a fascinating experience for me in terms of getting to see just how young fandom is, and how that skews certain perceptions. For a 20 year old, it means they've lived their whole life without love, whereas older people are more likely to go, "Even if you THINK you've been in love at 20, there are good odds you haven't really." :)
14, my God...I don't remember feeling that kind of pressure at that age, it must be awful!